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Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.

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n the bestselling tradition of Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman comes the breakthrough book that teaches women how to stop sabotaging their careers-and start getting ahead. For every professional woman who wants to get ahead-but feels she is at an impasse-NICE GIRLSDON'T GETTHECORNER OFFICE comes to the rescue. When overlooked for that special assignment or promotion, many women point the finger outwardly, looking for someone else to blame. Now, Lois P. Frankel presents a different view in her empowering career primer that helps women identify ingrained habits they learned as girls that may be holding them back, such as couching statements in a question, smiling inappropriately, tilting the head while speaking, and others. Only by overcoming these self-defeating behaviors will the 'nice girl' learn to leverage her power in the workplace-and claim the corner office she so richly deserves..
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It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, too. And, as is so often the case, angry folks don't seem to realize that the behavior causing them problems at home or at work actually stems from unrecognized and unresolved pain and emotional injuries from the past. Is all this negative emotion inevitable, or are there choices about how to respond, choices that can improve personal relationships as well as emotional health?

The Anger Trap is a landmark book that strips away the myths and misconceptions about anger and reveals how you can learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger so that you may choose-- or help someone else to choose-- a better, more spiritually enlightened path. The Anger Trap examines the root causes of anger and can help you realize your patterns and break the destructive cycles of criticism, frustration, and irritation that hurt you and others around you. Drawing insight from timeless spiritual wisdom as well as cutting-edge research, Dr. Carter offers practical techniques to free you from anger, its hidden insecurities, fears, and selfishness and thereby improve the quality of your home and workplace life. The book clearly illustrates how the change process works and The Anger Trap is filled with real-life examples of the ways people have come to terms with their anger by applying the concepts Dr. Carter outlines..
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Rebuild your sense of self, on your own terms.

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Dr. Neil Fiore, a renowned psychologist, lecturer, and bestselling author, has created his groundbreaking new program with you in mind. He guides you on an empowering journey of discovery--a journey to your Strongest Self. He'll show you step-by-step how to let go of all your old baggage and live a new, richer life.

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"For anyone who has been stuck in old habit patterns--be it procrastination, difficulty maintaining commitments to exercise and health habits, or living with stress and anxiety--Dr. Neil Fiore provides both the tools for, and the hope of, rapid change."
. --Susan Page, author of If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?

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"This book leads you in a step-by-step process to transform debilitating behavior into more satisfying and practical self-leadership skills."
--Wendy Palmer, author of The Practice of Freedom: Aikido Principles as a Spiritual Practice

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You don't need a wake-up call to know that you need to change. The signs are right there in front of you: stress, fear, procrastination, self-doubt, and self-sabotage. But now you can do something about it. You can awaken your Strongest Self, rebuild your confidence, and unlock your true potential . . . in only four steps.

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Dr. Neil Fiore's revolutionary program makes it surprisingly easy to change your life, one small step at a time. He's already helped thousands of people with his gentle approach to awakening the mind. Using the latest discoveries of neuroscience, he's developed an effective technique that actually retrains the brain to "turn off" negative thoughts. By teaching your brain to respond differently to everyday things, you can overcome self-destructive habits, reduce dangerous levels of stress, and increase productivity and creativity. It's all part of a gradual but rewarding process--the full awakening of the Strongest Self you were meant to be.

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Discover how you can:

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1. Break free of old, ineffective patterns.
2. Step up to your "new brain" and voice.
3. Awaken the five qualities of your Strongest Self.
4. Put everything together to achieve your goals.

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With each passing day, you'll feel stronger, more confident, and even downright joyful. Feelings of uncertainty, loneliness, and being overwhelmed will no longer have power over you. Instead, you'll be using the highest, most advanced part of your brain to take charge of your thoughts--and live the life you so richly deserve. This remarkable book gives you all the tools you need, including a special progress journal, a centering exercise, a stress quiz, self-talk suggestions, a chart for effective habit change, and personal posttests. It also features inspiring true stories of people just like you, people who kicked the habits that held them down and who turned their lives around. If they can do it, so can you.

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Awaken Your Strongest Self. It's the best thing you can do--for your life, your family, your career . . . and yourself.

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In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships—and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to heal it.

Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps readers to:Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationships—and why this is a giftIdentify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationshipsRecognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished businessUse mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy.
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Stating that the fear of commitment is a difficulty experienced by many contemporary couples, a guide for individuals who are looking for satisfactory relationships offers advice on balancing intimacy and independence. Reprint. Tour. PW. .
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Do you feel overwhelmed by your job? Are you so stressed on the job that you can't sleep, have headaches or stomach aches? Do you spend much of your time thinking and talking about your job? Do you feel responsible for everything that goes wrong on the job? Are you loyal to your boss and co-workers, even when they don't deserve it? Do you work well under pressure but have trouble completing long-term projects? Adult Children are among any company's most productive and valuable employees - dedicated, conscientious, capable and eager to please. But if you are an Adult Child and have answered yes to most of the above questions, you may be suffering from workaholism, burn-out or other work related problems. This book shows you what to look for and how to make your worklife more satisfying and effective. Annotation Adult Children of dysfunctional families in the workplace lack any sense of balance in their personal or profession lives..
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Are you living under a shadow?

Do you or someone you love suffer from:

Chronic sadness
Obsessiveness
Outbursts of anger
The inability to finish tasks
Acute anxiety
Disabling discomfort in social situations

These are the "shadow syndromes" of major mental disorders that limit the lives, productivity, and happiness of millions of people.

Drawing on cutting-edge research, Drs. Ratey and Johnson challenge the most basic beliefs of our mental health professionals by uncovering the biological factors that often determine our personalities.  They use real-life case studies to illustrate how shadow syndromes affect our everyday lives and how they can be treated--often dramatically--with diet, exercise, psychotherapy, and medication.

Shadow Syndromes is the revolutionary theory that sheds light on our life-limiting behaviors and offers the essential tools for changing them.  This book will liberate you and those you love..
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Berkeley linguistics professor John McWhorter, born at the dawn of the post-Civil Rights era, spent years trying to make sense of this question. Now he dares to say the unsayable: racism's ugliest legacy is the disease of defeatism that has infected black America. Losing the Race explores the three main components of this cultural virus: the cults of victimology, separatism, and antiintellectualism that are making blacks their own worst enemies in the struggle for success.

More angry than Stephen Carter, more pragmatic and compassionate than Shelby Steele, more forward-looking than Stanley Crouch, McWhorter represents an original and provocative point of view. With Losing the Race, a bold new voice rises among black intellectuals.

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This book offers solutions to anyone who has felt victimized, ostracized or left behind by life.

Why does happiness always seem to elude certain people? And why, when these same people seem to be on the cusp of achieving happiness, do they sabotage themselves?

This is the first book about addiction to misery, a common but subtle problem that keeps many people from responding to counseling or therapy, healing from old hurts, and experiencing fulfillment and joy. For people who are addicted to misery, happiness itself is frightening and threatening. As a result, every joy must be equalized by a setback. Too much success must be balanced by failure.

People who are addicted to misery try to protect themselves against feeling bad by not feeling too good. For them, happiness itself triggers a pattern of decisions and behaviors that leads to emotional pain - pain that is comforting in its familiarity. Because of the subtlety and contradictions of an addiction to misery, many talented therapists and counselors may not recognize it and those who have it often unable to see through it.

When Misery is Company not only explains the problem, it offers a practical, step-by-step program for overcoming it-and living a life of joy and fulfillment.

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